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When you have questions

You don’t have to stew in them, or go hunting into the dark corners of the world to find the answers.

  1. Prayer, dude. Prayer.  Take it seriously.  Actually use it.
  2. If you are worrying a ton about random questions and you haven’t read the scriptures, please consider yourself duly scolded.  And then go read the scriptures.  If you’re having trouble with it - for cognitive reasons, because the language is hard, whatever - there are lots of options.  There are thus no excuses for skipping out on this part.  Sorry.
  3. You have a bishop, or branch president.  If you’re not a member yet, you still have a mission president.  Every single person on earth is within someone’s area of responsibility.  They’re your first and best resource: they have literally been called to look after your spiritual welfare.
  4. There are missionaries virtually everywhere - and if you are now, like I once was, living in a place where the missionaries have been withdrawn for their own safety, you still can talk to them on  If you have transportation, you can also meet missionaries in other parts of your district (it was just our city that was off limits; we could visit with the missionaries one town over.)
  5. has an amazing search feature. Go, search now.
  6. The search engine is pretty OK, too. 
  7. There is no shortage of official publications you can hunt through for answers.  Most basic questions are answered by For The Strength of Youth, Gospel Principles, and True to the Faith/Gospel Topics.  Harder or more complicated-seeming questions are addressed in Institute manuals, in General Conference talks, etc.  Practical questions are addressed in the Provident Living manuals.  And so on.
  8. In general, books that you can find at Deseret Book, and sites hosted at, are quite trustworthy.  BYU’s speeches site has a pretty good search engine, FYI.  And don’t forget about the Encyclopedia of Mormonism.
  9. There are some trustworthy, unofficial sources.  Jeff Lindsay has never let me down, for instance.  Exercise caution in this area, though, especially if you’re a “newbie.”  One of the reasons I’m confident in not trusting the gospel according to John Dehlin is that I’ve been paying attention to him for over a decade: I know enough to have an informed opinion.  (He’s also a nice guy, incidentally, from the few conversations I’ve had with him.)  Jeff Lindsay’s list of links is a pretty good starting place.  

And, for those who still don’t have what they need, the folks at FAIR Mormon operate an actual question-and-answer service!

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It’s not your business if some other person is eligible (or not) to be baptized, eligible (or not) to be ordained, eligible (or not) to partake of the sacrament, eligible (or not) to be endowed in the temple, eligible (or not) to be sealed to their spouse, etc., unless they are your personal responsibility in the kingdom of God - i.e., you are their branch president, bishop, mission president, stake president, etc.  It’s not even your business if you’re just someone else’s bishop, in other words.

There’s a reason that church disciplinary councils and actions are confidential, and why we say that the Lord’s house is one of order.  There’s also some stuff about gossip in the gospel, IIRC.

(Actually, even callings like “Primary Worker” are kept confidential from the potential worker until the calling is actually issued, and at that point the calling should not be discussed outside of the “need to know” folks - the family members of the person, the auxiliary leader, etc. - until the sustaining vote.  The amount you pay in tithing is also confidential.  So is the nature/existence/details of any financial/medical/food/psychiatric/etc. assistance you may have asked the church for.)

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I often hear about how different the book and the musical versions of Wicked are, but no one ever seems to mention the differences between the book and musical versions of The Book of Mormon.

I’m gonna go ahead and assume this was a joke, and therefore will not link to all the blog posts out there specifically complaining about all the stuff the musical gets wrong, factually.

(I think that talking about this would make a pretty interesting YSA FHE, actually.  Probably not appropriate for Mutual, though.)

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Personal opinion

It’s really not OK to refer to unavailable sources when making an argument (or pretty much any other time.)

This is part of why you have to use proper citations in academic papers, FYI, and also part of why criminal defendants have the right to face their accusers.  From the Wikipedia article on citations:

Citation has several important purposes: to uphold intellectual honesty (or avoiding plagiarism), to attribute prior or unoriginal work and ideas to the correct sources, to allow the reader to determine independently whether the referenced material supports the author’s argument in the claimed way, and to help the reader gauge the strength and validity of the material the author has used.

(emphasis was mine.)

Anyway, it’s intellectually kind of a jerk move to quote from something that the other person has no legitimate access to.  It’s double-extra jerky if you do it in a way where the other person can’t even tell if you yourself have legitimate access to the material!

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